Most adults, at one point in their lives, have struggled with trying to figure out the purpose of their lives or have at least been conflicted about what they should do in certain situations.
Babies are all about exploration and no experience is censored; spreading their legs apart, sucking on their toes and farting with abandon! They are just trying to figure out what their bodies can and cannot do. As they grow older they are more aware of what they do as well as that they can consciously control their body movements and what they want to accomplish. Then we adults come in and qualify their movement, tell them what is good or bad or disgusting, “You should think this,” and “This is how you should handle yourself.”
We want to have civilized children and productive members of society, but we as parents often qualify our children’s action so much that they forget how to just be, be themselves, and have fun learning.
Next time, before you add your wisdom after witnessing a child do something:
- Take a breath.
- Look around you.
- Think about what the child was trying to accomplish.
- If you need to, say something like:” I love seeing you dance like that” or “that is very creative.”
Letting our kids discover who they are without external judgment is a great way to make sure that the child will grow into a more self-assured adult.